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My son really wants to give money to beggars however i give plenty at the office
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We live in a rustic with a generous social welfare system (which I support! I am happy to pay my taxes to assist produce a caring society). The unemployed actually receive more income here than those working for minimum wage there are people balancing the budget on less than that. While they're not rich, it possible to do OK on that sort of money. We also have a massive problem with welfare fraud, but that something.
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He said, you said hello was my money to do things i wanted with and that i want to give it to that man. We now have lots of money and he has none. He looked horrified by my callous behaviour. I said, Fair enough it was his money and it was his right to do what he wanted with. I thought that maybe this person (young, able-bodied, wearing brand-new Nikes and trendy jeans) would be too embarrassed to consider a euro coin from a small child. But no.
We stepped onto in shocked silence. I felt like a right-wing freak (I not; I vote centre-left) along with a miser (Not! I give money to some registered charity every month by direct debit!). He couldn think that I'd deny a number of our loose change to somebody that needed it. He continued to be a pious child from 1800s literature throughout the day. He found coins under the sofa and said, guess we don actually need these because they are under our sofa, can one give them next time I see you aren't nothing?
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Dear Conflicted,
I think it is okay that you simply feel conflicted. It's not a personality flaw, or proof of an insufficiently well-worked-out political philosophy. The conflict you feel resides in the situation.
While you walk with your son and also you see the beggar looking at the ground outside the church with his paper cup, you feel the conflict between giving your son the liberty to complete because he wishes and also the desire to instruct him in the ways of the world. You feel the conflict between what you look for him to understand and what he's able to understanding. You are feeling the conflict between the actions you are taking routinely to alleviate poverty and the clear evidence in front of you that poverty persists. You are feeling the conflict,[url=http://woolrichdeutschlandarcticparka.albirank.net/][b]Woolrich Parka Günstig outlet[/b][/url], also, between how you want to seem to others and how you would like to appear to your son. He runs the danger of innocently embarrassing you. To keep your word for your son,[url=http://peutereyjacketsuppliers.webmium.com/][b]Peuterey men[/b][/url], you may appear to condone an action that politically you do not agree to.
You can't change what your son feels. He feels simple compassion and the need to give. You cannot alter the proven fact that this beggar appeared before you. You cannot alter the proven fact that certain policies exist. You may work toward change, but at this time, this is the situation.
We live in a complicated economic and social world full of jokes (yes, jokes: cosmic jokes) and paradox and contradiction. An extremist, or perhaps a purist,[url=http://parajumpersoutletjackets.webmium.com/][b]http://parajumpersoutletjackets.webmium.com/[/b][/url], can invariably criticize us for our failure to adhere to orthodoxy. Our defense should be that the world is complex and filled with contradiction. Our defense must also be that we are individuals, and that we support the right to make the best choice we can at the time. We support the to be wrong on occasion. We claim the right to be who we're. We don't tell you they are perfect.
Your son is really a charming young boy. He isn't an economic theorist and he is not standing for Parliament. He's a 6-year-old who responds around the world before him. Seen in that light,[url=http://parajumpersoutletjackets.webmium.com/][b]parajumpers vest[/b][/url], a moment of conflict may be transformed into a moment of grace. Your son might give his money to the beggar and that would be that. You would feel each one of these conflicts but not be compelled to fix them.
Given everything we all know of history, given all of the failures of grand systems and utopian ideas whether or not they be religious or political or economic, we try to reside in the world because it is and that we keep our balance. We very often give money and often do not. We might give too much or too little or none at all.
We're just people during life the best we all know how. There are times when that has to be enough. This really is one of those times.
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