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cheapbag214s · Posted: Wed 4:16, 04 Sep 2013 Post subject: He's not a sociopath

He's not a sociopath
I have a question about a boy I dated. I can't figure out what is "wrong" with him. I would have said he is a sociopath, but he doesn't fit that category. I'll try to give you a sense about him: he doesn't have a good interpersonal intuition,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], for example,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], we were having an informal relationship (we were roomates and had started having sex), but I had told him at one point I didn't want to be his girlfriend per se. Still, I was surprised to find out that he thought it was okay to try to sleep with other people. We went to a party together, and he ended up making out with my best friend's little sister in a closet, and who knows what else. I know he would have had sex with her with all of us in the room outside if she'd let him. He is 22, she was 16. A while later, my (ex) best friend, and note that she has "issues" of her own, tried to seduce him, and he ended up making out with her. This after I had confronted him about trying to sleep with the other girl, telling him I wasn't okay with it, to say the least. But either way, he was confused and surprised, he wasn't sure why I was upset,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but he was remorseful that he had unknowingly misstepped. But he really didn't think I'd be upset,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], based on what I'd told him about our relationship being unofficial. But most people would know that no matter what a girl says, she's not going to be happy if you sleep with someone else, or flirt, etc.
So that's one example. Another is how he has no sense for social norms. He couldn't get a job for the longest time because he'd show up to job interviews smelly, unwashed, with stained pants and and unwashed dress-shirt, wearing a ratty leather jacket he'd found, and looking dishevelled,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], having biked there. I tried to fix him up, but he didn't get it. He also didn't see anything wrong with almost never washing his clothes,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and wearing the same unwashed socks all the time. He understood that he had to wear clothes in some situations,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but he didn't understand it in a much more complex way than that.
Honestly,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], it was like he was born yesterday, like he was from outer space or something. He comes out of the bathroom after a 5 min shower, still visibly dirty,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], only now also with soap suds on him. He didn't even "know how" to shower!
And he wasn't stupid, he was very intelligent. He read a lot. He wasn't a verbal idiot, although there was some aspect of social awkwardness, which is why no one would hire him.
He was raised by his mother, mostly, a nurse, with 4 siblings. Periodically,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], he'd visit or stay with his father, who is an untreated bi-polar, and who verbally/emotionally abused him from babyhood, berating him for not knowing how to do things that he hadn't been around to teach him. He told me that as a child,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], he was late learning how to talk, and he described being locked in a room at this age,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and learning how to yell before he could talk because it was the only way out. I think certain traumas or neglect in his early childhood are responsible for what he lacks now.
He also is hyperactive. He's 22,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but he acts like a puppy. In other words, he has areas of problems,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but not to the point of a specific diagnosis. There appears to be a definite social immaturity and poor judgment,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], which could be related to his chaotic childhood experiences. I'm concerned that a 22 year old man would consider it appropriate to consider sex with a 16 year old girl. Later in life, the age difference wouldn't matter; at that age, it does - very much. His hygienic issues could reflect several different things, such as unconscious rebellion against social norms or his parents,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], or a lack of care about what others think. His sexual activity with others while rooming with you isn't really a surprise,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], since you did not outline your expectations,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], other than that you were not in a romantic relationship. Expecting others to "know" is unrealistic - sorry.
Is your friend now employed? If so, that demonstrates meeting enough social norms to function successfully, even if not optimally. Is he concerned about his functional level? Have you ever shared your concerns with him as you have in this forum? Overall,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], he seems different,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], perhaps a bit odd, but within society's norms.
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